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How to Embrace Your Personal Style and Not Worry What Others Think

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It’s often said that we shouldn’t care what other people think about us and our decisions. This is especially true when it comes to our wardrobes. We live in a society that is often too focused on what other people think, and as a result, many of us feel pressured to conform to the latest trends and styles. However, when it comes to your wardrobe, it’s important to remember that it’s okay not to care what other people think! But this sounds easier said than done, right? In this post, we’ll discuss why it’s okay to not care what other people think about your wardrobe and how to finally embrace your personal style.

The first step (and the best way) to let go of the opinions of others is to remind yourself of all the benefits of embracing your personal style. 

The Benefits of Not Caring About What People Think

You’ll Save Time and Money

Not only does truly embracing your personal style save you time because you’re not trying to find the perfect outfit that satisfies everyone’s opinions, but it’ll also save you money.

You can finally stop spending unnecessary amounts on clothes that don’t make you feel comfortable or confident. Instead of dressing for family members or close friends, you’ll be dressing for yourself!

Your Wardrobe Will Be More Functional

Sometimes it can be hard to balance between fashion trends, personal style, people’s opinions, and making sure you look good. However, when you stop worrying about what other people’s opinions are on your wardrobe choices, you will find yourself with more time to focus on what actually works for you.

Putting too much weight on people’s thoughts can lead to much wasted time trying to second guess what is fashionable or acceptable. This doesn’t mean that fashion is off the table; in fact, some of the most stylish people simply find a few key pieces that they love and build their wardrobe around them.

They don’t follow trends or care about others’ opinions; they simply wear what they like and feel good wearing. By focusing on your clothing preferences instead of other people’s opinions, you can create a wardrobe that is functional and fashionable at the same time.

You’ll be More Comfortable

When you don’t worry about what other people think of your clothing, you can take the time to choose clothes that are comfortable. You won’t have to worry about people’s opinions or try to impress others with your clothing choices. Instead, you can focus on feeling comfortable when wearing your clothes.

This can save you a lot of time when it comes to deciding what to wear each day without compromising on comfort. Not having to worry about people’s thoughts on what you wear will also give you a feeling of freedom, allowing you to express yourself without any fear of judgment.

You’ll be More Confident

One of the most empowering things about embracing your personal style is the confidence boost it can give you. When you stop worrying about others’ opinions about your wardrobe and care more about your own opinion, you start to focus more on how you feel in your clothes. This means you can choose pieces that make you feel comfortable, confident, and ready to take on the world!

When you feel good about yourself, it radiates outwards. Other people will sense your confidence and positivity. And even if some people don’t like your style, it won’t matter, because you know that you’re being your true self.

Yes, negative comments will happen, but when you trust yourself and your own style, you’ll be amazed at how much more confident and happy you’ll feel.

If the fear of what others may think is causing you to have low self-esteem and a lack of confidence, follow these simple tips so you can get to living your best life. Best fashion life, that is!

1. Accept Now That You Can’t Please Everyone

It’s important to remember that everyone has different opinions and thoughts when it comes to fashion and style. Trying to please everyone with your wardrobe is not only impossible, but it’s exhausting on your mental health and a waste of time. Rarely do good things come out of trying to please everyone!

There will always be people who don’t like what you’re wearing, but it’s not your job to please them. In fact, wearing what you love and feel good in will attract positive attention from others who appreciate your style.

Your wardrobe should reflect your unique personality and taste, not someone else’s. Remember that people’s opinions are just that – their opinions. They may not have the same style as you or understand your fashion choices, but that doesn’t mean you should let their thoughts dictate what you wear.

2. Ask Yourself, “What’s the Worst Case Scenario?”

Sometimes you have to think about a scenario to the end for it to lose its power over you. One powerful way to stop worrying about other people’s thoughts and opinions about your wardrobe is to ask yourself, “What’s the worst-case scenario?”

Really think about it. If someone criticizes your outfit or expresses disapproval of your personal style, what is the actual worst thing that could happen? Maybe your feelings get hurt for 20 minutes or you feel a little bummed that day. Not fun, but not the end of the world either.

In reality, the worst-case scenario is usually not that bad. Maybe someone will make a rude comment, but you’ll never see them again. Maybe someone will judge you, but their opinion really doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things.

If you find yourself feeling anxious or self-conscious about what others may think of your outfit, try to shift your perspective. Instead of focusing on what others might say or think, focus on how you feel in the outfit. Do you feel confident? Comfortable? Beautiful? That’s all that really matters. At the end of the day, your personal style is just that – personal. It’s a reflection of who you are and what you love.

3. Focus on What You Like (Not Others)

If you spend a lot of time thinking about what others are thinking about you (whew, sounds exhausting), then you’ve got to replace that thought pattern.

Instead of constantly seeking validation from others or wondering what people are thinking of you, try to focus on how you feel when you wear certain pieces. Do you feel confident? Do you feel like yourself? These are the things that truly matter.

Not saying we should turn inward-focused and be consumed with ourselves (because that has negative mental impacts as well), but asking yourself if you feel comfortable in an item gives you something else to think about. Plus, when you feel comfortable, you feel confident. And when you feel confident, you can help others feel confident too.

Of course, it’s natural to want to look good in the eyes of others. But it’s important to remember that people’s opinions are often influenced by their own biases and preferences. What one person loves, another person might hate. There’s no way to please everyone with your wardrobe choices. Pleasing someone is a moving target that you’ll never reach.

4. Surround Yourself With Supportive People

Finally, one of the best ways to embrace your personal style and not worry about what others think is by surrounding yourself with supportive people! While it’s important to recognize that people’s opinions and thoughts will always exist (and differing opinions can be good), surrounding yourself with those who encourage and uplift you can make all the difference.

Look for friends and family members who share similar interests and values when it comes to fashion. Be choosy about who you seek feedback and advice from when you’re trying to refine your personal style. Having a strong support system can help you feel more confident and comfortable in your own skin because you know that you have people who believe in you and your choices.

Don’t forget about fashion communities and groups online where you can connect with like-minded individuals who are also passionate about expressing themselves through their wardrobes! This can be a great way to learn new tips and tricks, gain inspiration, and feel more connected to a community that supports your individuality. (You’ve got a place here at My Chic Obsession!)

In the end, learning to embrace your personal style and not care what others think takes time and practice. But by taking small steps, you can cultivate a sense of confidence and self-assurance that will serve you well in all aspects of life. So go ahead and wear that outfit you’ve been dying to try, and know that you’re doing it for yourself and no one else!

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​Could you benefit from building your confidence? Then keep reading: How To Build Your Confidence as a Woman


Founder and editor of My Chic Obsession, Carolyn is your trusted fashion maven. Carolyn's drive to help others achieve a classic and timeless wardrobe fuels her posts, making a go-to resource for style seekers worldwide. Beyond the wardrobe, she resides in the heartland of the Midwest, dreaming up new ideas and raising her two lively boys - her biggest fashion critics.