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Recently, Titus and I celebrated our 6th wedding anniversary. I couldn’t believe it. It seemed like we just celebrated our 5th! Of course, that’s how numbers work, but it took me by surprise how fast time was going.
I got married at the ripe age of 19. And no, I’m not stupid. I don’t think that 19 really means 30. I get it. It’s young!!! And because it’s so young I know there are a lot of misconceptions out there about what getting married as a teenager is really like.
In my experience, you get a lot of crap for getting married at an age that isn’t deemed correct to the person judging you. My goal with this post is not to convince every 17 year old out there to go get hitched. I just want to shed some light on my experience!
Disclaimer: Personal topics like this can be touchy and it’s not my goal to judge anyone as I hope you aren’t judging me. I do not recommend that everyone gets married at a young age. This is just my experience.
What Getting Married as a Teenager is Really Like
The below misconceptions are real things that were spoken directly to me or spoken through “friends” to me.
“But you’ll be broke”
That doesn’t have to be true. Sure, we didn’t have loads of disposable income and we had to be smart with what we had, but we did okay and made it through. We both worked and didn’t have a ton of expenses. Even with unexpected things like medical surgeries, God always provided and we learned how to live within our means and make the most of “small” things.
And no, we never asked our parents for money. I don’t look down on those that do, but I feel it’s a common thought that if you get married young you are still living off your parent’s paycheck and in their basement. That was not our experience! Now, at 25 & 26, we are “better than ever” and living debt-free. Well, we have a mortgage, so mostly debt-free. 😉
“You’re throwing your life away”
What life is that? A life of boys, partying, getting drunk, and wasting money? Gee, sign me up. *sarcasm* If you are marrying the right person, they should enrich your life and want to help you reach your goals. For example, ever since I could remember I’ve been saying that I wanted to go to Paris. With the extra financial and emotional support that Titus gave me, I was finally able to fulfill that lifelong dream and go a couple of years after being married. He supports everything I want to do. My life is fuller now than it ever was. I haven’t thrown my life away at all, in fact, I’m able to accomplish more now as a married person than I could have single.
“You’re tying yourself down too soon”
This piggybacks off my previous point that if you are marrying the right person, then there’s no such thing as being “tied down”. I mean, if you view getting married as tying yourself down then I think you need to rethink your view of marriage in general. If anything, you are lifted up! If people need to “play the field” then let that be their choice. If you know who and what you want, that is your choice and people shouldn’t shame you just because you know what you want. Doesn’t society tell us to go after what we want? And to be whatever we want to be? But all of a sudden we’re “wrong” and “crazy” as soon as we make a decision that society doesn’t agree with.
“You’re stupid”
This is not even a misconception. This is just something that someone said to me. To my face. It was the guy doing my nails. THE DAY BEFORE MY WEDDING. I don’t bother with small-minded people that make comments with no serious backing to them. Sure, you can disagree with me all you want. I’ll live. But “you’re stupid” is not a valid argument. I mean, what does a 30 some year old single guy that’s working at a nail salon in a dying mall have to teach me about life & relationships? Plus, don’t even get me started on the lack of decorum and maturity it takes to say something like that to a stranger’s face.
“You’re too young”
This is the most common statement and it doesn’t really fall under a misconception because people aren’t protesting one thing. This is just a general “I don’t agree with this.” They have their own ideas about what love and marriage should look like and if it doesn’t happen when they think it should then it’s wrong. If I was brave enough back then I would have tried to dig deeper into these comments.
I would have asked, Why do you think it’s too young? Do you think marriage should happen at a certain age? What are you really afraid of? If I had asked those questions I would have been able to understand better. I would have been able to see the projection of their own fears that they have in their life taken out on me.
“You don’t know who you are yet”
Does anybody actually ever feel like they totally know who they are? No! We’re always changing. That’s not a bad thing. That’s just a fact. Yes, it’s important to have an idea about who you are and where you want to end up so your goals can match up with the right person, but there’s no magic backpacking trip through Europe that’s going to figure life out for you. One benefit of marrying young is that you get to grow with this person. You can figure things out together. It creates a deeper bond.
“You’re going to get divorced/You’re not going to make it 3 years”
I have heard people say you should wait until you’re 27 to get married because that’s when your brain is fully developed. But all I know is that plenty of people get married in their 30’s and divorce in a year or two. You can get married at 20 and stay together forever and you can get married at 30 and break up in 1 year. And vice versa. Marriage is not about a certain age. It’s about maturity, commitment, and the CHOICE to love (not just like) someone. And yes, as a general rule, the younger you are the less mature you are. Generally. If that were a hard and fast rule then there wouldn’t be any divorces after the age of 30 and well, we all know that’s not true!

We’re not the perfect couple and we’re learning every day. I know for a fact that our marriage would look a lot different had it not be rooted in God. But the simple fact is, we’re happy. And we wouldn’t change a thing.
If you’re reading this post and you’re curious about young marriages in general, I hope this is your main takeaway:
“You can get married at 20 and stay together forever and you can get married at 30 and break up in 1 year. And vice versa. Marriage is not about a certain age. It’s about maturity, commitment, and the CHOICE to love someone. And yes, as a general rule, the younger you are the less mature you are. Generally. If that were a hard and fast rule then there wouldn’t be any divorces after the age of 30 and well, we all know that’s not true!“
Don’t automatically disregard someone as a person because they get married young and assume that they’re just going to get divorced. If you’re really curious, ask questions. Genuine ones, not accusatory ones. And if you have more questions for me, I’m more than happy to answer!
If you’re curious to learn more about our lives then check out this get to know me post!


I was married at 36. My ten year wedding anniversary is fast approaching. I gave birth to our baby at 44. I’m sure that is too old for a lot of people. I was once asked if I was the mom or the grandmother. Since I was nursing my child I would think the answer was obvious. Who breastfeeds their grandkid?
One of my coworkers became a grandmother at 42. We agreed that we have no idea which is better, starting early or later in life. Things happen when they are supposed. All this to say there is no right time, there is only the right time for YOU. People can take their issues and shove them. 😉
Thank you for sharing your story, Peggy! Congrats on your 10 year anniversary- what a milestone! I’m sorry for the unnecessary comments that you received. I totally agree with what you said: there is no right time, only right for you. I love that!
Hello, I really enjoyed reading the article. I too was married at 19, celebrated my 34th anniversary on 8/30. I can relate to all the comments you got, which I agree with you. All I know is that I’m still happy and living my best life with my family. Best wishes always.
Aw, thank you for sharing, Monica. I totally agree- I’m happy and living my best life too. Wishing you all the best as well!
Hello! I could not love this article more! Thank you for standing up for marriage. Most 19 yr olds would have simply shacked up. You did it right. And you ARE right…God at the center makes it all work. Again, thank you! xoxo
Thank you, Heather, for your encouragement 🙂 Have a great day!
My husband and I were married at 19 years old also. I wouldn’t trade those years for all the money in the world. I have never regretted getting married “young”. We were married for 41 years…the only thing that split us up was his death. If we would have waited for “the right age” to marry we would have missed out on those years.
I am sorry for your loss, Kay. Though I certainly don’t have 41 years of happy marriage to compare to, I too am glad that we didn’t wait. These past 6 years married have been some of the best of my life! I certainly would have missed out on a lot of joy.
Your wedding pic is so sweet! My sister got married at 19 too, and they have been married for 11 years now 🙂 I love stories of young love!
Aw that’s so sweet. I love hearing stories about young love too!
I LOVE your article on getting married young! We got married aI 20 and celebrated our 50th anniversary this past year. There are hard times and wonderful times, I wouldnt trade it for any other life!
Agreed! Congrats on 50 years! That’s a huge milestone.
Thanks alot for this encouraging article, teenage pregnancy made us get married at 19 but I couldn’t withstand the criticism and ridicules from the people around me including some of my best friends. But I never gave up and our child has made one year now and we r still happily married much as there are up and downs but I think we r destined to be together. Trusting in God is the key and He has plans for each and everyone that no man can stand against.